I was determined that he knew that — that I wasn’t going to be the type of girlfriend he’d allow to hang around him for an ego boost.” Suffice to say, the “no contact” rule worked in Shannon’s favor in winning her ex back.“We’ve been together for two years since we got back together, and he’s been hinting about getting married. With the “no contact” rule in place, you’re able to see things more clearly, and along the way, you’ll also realize how both of you had messed up your relationship. Shares Audrey, “We both agreed the relationship wasn’t going anywhere, so we broke up. Even though I was devastated and missed him desperately, my friends and I were determined that I follow the ‘no contact’ rule.It really worked wonders in helping me cope, and during those 30 days, I was able to view our relationship in a new light.” Adds Jordan, “The ‘no contact’ rule helped both Audrey and me to figure out what went wrong in our relationship.Prior to our breakup, we were fighting all the time.Everybody who has ever gone through a breakup — nasty, amicable, or somewhere in-between — knows about the “no contact” rule or nc: no communication whatsoever between you and your ex after the breakup. Every situation is different and you should act according to your situation.
Just to satisfy my curiosity, I decided to do a quick research and see what are the various numbers that are being given. Of course, there are many more but I am not going to list them here.However, if you still want your ex back, then 6 months is definitely too long. After all, it is not going to make a big difference with regards to whether you will get him or her back. The “no contact” rule has certainly worked not just for me, but also for a lot of other people.Some experts will tell you not to send the birthday greetings. In a nutshell: Without any physical reminders about your ex, you’re able to get over the breakup in a shorter span of time.For example, some people end up doing 6 months or even 1 year of no contact and are surprised that their ex has moved on and are in a new relationship. Basically, 20% of the things you do is going to get you 80% of the results when it comes to getting your ex back. The other 80% of the things you do is only going to give you 20% result.If you have decided to move on and don’t want your ex back anymore, then you are definitely encouraged to stay away from your ex for as long as you want. Wishing your ex happy birthday belongs to the 80% of insignificant things. However, I would not recommend sending a birthday card or letter, especially if you are using it as an excuse to pour out your feelings. If you want, just a text or Facebook message will do. The “no contact” rule is important for a number of reasons, chief of which is that it is the most effective coping mechanism to help you move on.