Soon enough, you’re riding on the back of his Vespa through winding roads to watch the sunset from a spot that only locals know about thinking, is this real life??
That’s exactly what happened to me when I studied abroad in Granada, Spain last spring and, BOY, do I wish I had someone warn me that such a romance isn’t all rainbows and butterflies.
This isn’t some feminist “sister, a man will only hold you back from becoming the woman you should be” speal. If you’re in love with someone and know your time together is limited by your visa, you will want to spend as much time with him as possible.
This means turning down weekend jaunts to Ibiza to stay with him and nixing girls’ nights out of shameless bar-top dancing with your friends for quiet nights with your man.
Mix in a relationship with all these feelings and emotions and it becomes hard to distinguish how you feel about the person versus how you feel towards life in general at this time.
My friends like to refer to what I had with my love as “the fairytale,” and, in many ways, it was.Oh, and I got to fall deeply in love in one of the most romantic cities in the world…I guess that’s pretty cool too.But, just like any relationship, there are some aspects that are extremely difficult and painful.When I look back on my time with him in Granada, I remember the most intense feelings I’ve ever experienced in my life; passion, pain, confusion, excitement, desperation and intense disappointment.I think I could have avoided some of the darker bits had someone made me conscious of the facts I’ve listed above.