When I was dating I remember constantly being smothered with that giant question like a bloated bear was sitting on my head, refusing to move. But how are you supposed to know which “One’ is the right one?
To magically stumble upon like finding the gold at the end of a rainbow that is being carried by a unicorn with leprechaun jockey.
How are you supposed to lasso that magical unicorn before it flies away?
And if you don’t know your values, how can you expect your partner to have a clue?
Holidays, especially, are giving you a glimpse into how your partner has been taught and trained. Sit up, take notes, because believe me you’ll want to feel prepared for the test that comes later. Love can be the worst form of manipulation there is.
And the test will come like a train on a dark and stormy night! I first asked this question in , and I think it boils down to this: Is their love based on YOU or is their love based on THEM? Your partner can look and smell like a rose, and yet continue to prick you with their sharpened barbs.
I struggle being in a job, friendship, situations, etc.
where I feel like I’m having to pretend to be someone else. How this plays out in my life, especially in the aspect of career, is that I struggle doing work I don’t believe in and isn’t aligned with who I am.