In his book "The All-or-Nothing Marriage," Eli Finkel, a psychologist at Northwestern University and a professor at the Kellogg School of Management, recommends asking less of your marriage as a way to strengthen it.
For example, maybe your partner doesn't crave late-night philosophical debates the way you do; maybe a friend does.
The truth is, this feeling of urgency and intensity or strong attraction toward another person is not necessarily a reliable indicator of whether you are in love or should immediately dive into a serious dating relationship.
The wisest man in the bible, King Solomon said, Guard your affections, for out of them come the issues of life.
Still, it's important to discuss how you'll change and grow together if you're planning to get married, as well as what you're afraid of and excited about.
You may think no one has ever made you feel like this and you can’t help but be amazed at the chemistry, or electricity between you and this new love. But sadly those involved don’t take the time to get to know each other before jumping into something serious.
" Avie Likes This writes, "There are those who believe looking at pornography or going to strip clubs is cheating. Establish the boundaries, before getting into a marriage." This question about infidelity has never been more relevant.
Often these kinds of relationships built on infatuation can die as quickly as they spring up.
Wikipedia defines infatuation as: the state of being completely carried away by unreasoning passion or love; addictive love.
" Back2Bach is onto something: According to a 2007 Pew Research poll, sharing household chores is the third most important factor in a successful marriage.
(The first two are faithfulness and a happy sexual relationship).