My last girlfriend and I broke up last September, and I spent a number of months drawing lessons from the experience, learning from mistakes and thinking deeply about the type of person with whom I might have a successful relationship. Apparently, it does have more marriages to its credit than any of the other sites, but given that these people won't fuck you you marry them, I'm guessing a good proportion of those represent 50-something virgins who have despaired of ever knowing the love of the opposite sex. Sometimes they'll reject the profile for no visible reason--you might have changed a comma, for example.
He got the conversation going by asking who wanted to get married and why. It was astounding how many women do not desire marriage and seem to be extremely jaded. Plenty Of Fish combines a horrible circa-1998 user interface with a more or less utter lack of selection criteria, so after squinting at the multitude of low-res pictures and the vaguely- or not-at-all-filled-out profiles, if your dating strategy is anything other than "whoever responds to my thousands of vague spam emails, she will I marry" (it's more of a guy thing), you realize that not only are you barking up the wrong tree, but in fact it's a coat-rack, and you should stop barking because of how you're not a dog. Two more personality disorders on my punchcard (come on, schizotypal! Eventually I began dating again, mostly meeting potential sugarboogers online, and I found myself debating which dating site to go with. Remember: your experience may differ, though only if you look a lot like Jon Hamm, in which case, why are you on an online dating site? If you're shooting for a partner a bit higher up the evolutionary ladder (or the fish ladder), not so much. Personality disorders, OCD, bipolar -- if you want to date your way through the DSM IV (and if you're taking an abnormal psych class, there's no better way to memorize the disorders), Match not only offers, but mandates that experience.So if you're not sure if you wrote to someone before--and remember, they're all pretty much monozygotic twins--you've got no way to find out.Since you're probably just like everyone else on the site, I expect it doesn't much matter. , if ever I get to stop dating, I think I'll miss you most of all.