As I prayed about it, I felt like God gave me permission to pursue it. With that in mind, we know God will see us through whatever difficulties we face in the future.
Later on, when I prayed about the possibility of marriage, God answered that prayer clearly too. And as I look back on past relationships, I can see why Matt and I are the best match compared to others we each dated.
There are many reasons why he's afraid to attach the label of girlfriend. Read: Are We Dating or Just Hanging Out Know that if a man wants you to be his girlfriend and doesn't want anyone else dating you or sleeping with you, he'll do whatever it takes to make sure you're his girlfriend and will be happy and proud to let the world know.
My suggestion is, after a reasonable amount of time together, have a calm conversation with your guy.
It's no secret that a man usually falls in love before the woman does. His feelings for you are fluctuating and he might be in conflict between being in a relationship and being single guy. He's just not that into you and doesn't see you in his future. Ask him if it's a good time to talk about something that's on your mind.
A man also is usually the first to say "I love you" to a woman. If he cares about you, he'll know there's something wrong and will want to fix it.
It's obvious that you're an important part of his life, or otherwise he'd be out with his drinking buddies instead of holding you in his arms every night. First of all, don't get overemotional about it yet. He likes the friends-with-benefits arrangement and regular sleepovers. If he says you mean the world to him but still doesn't assign a label to your relationship, believe him at his word.
You might wonder if you should give him the big ultimatum about your relationship status, let it slide, or have a conversation about mutual respect and expectations in a relationship. Before you go having the relationship talk and cause an explosion or breakup prematurely, look at these signs to determine where you fit on his relationship totem pole. He might not be ready to change his Facebook relationship status or go ring shopping, but you might be on the track to falling in love.
In other relationships, I began to think that some of the things I had wanted in a husband were perhaps more wishful thinking than things that could actually be.
It was after this that God began unfolding the events that led me to start dating Matt, the man that would become my husband.
We had met in college and built a solid friendship through the years, but I had not considered him in a romantic way although he repeatedly let me know that he was somewhat interested in me.
His job often seemed more important to him than our relationship, and he would repeatedly put friends or family before me. After that relationship, I had come to the end of my dating rope.
Once I took my fingers out of my ears and agreed to truly hear what God had to say, His answer was quite clear. Since I had not done such a great job of choosing relationships on my own, I decided to let God choose the next one.