The example above is more suited for a dating site where longer messages are the norm, but you can get her talking about herself on a dating app with a short message like this: Most of your competition is sending her lame first messages like “Hey, how was your weekend?
And the better she feels about talking to you, the more likely she is to share her number.
Which brings us to our next examples: Travel makes an awesome subject for a first message because it’s something most women enjoy doing, or at least enjoy dreaming about.
And who doesn’t like to at least think they have a great sense of adventure?
Many online dating sites like and Ok Cupid have keyword searches, so you can filter for women who also enjoy a certain hobby.
So if you’re into skiing for instance, you can can send a message like example #3 to any interesting women who have this word in their profile.