I got fed up and left with all the being checked up on and being spied on and told I was lying when I couldn’t have been more faithful. Maybe if all that business is going on your life you might realize you are in the wrong relationship or maybe if you are the cheater you shouldn’t be in a relationship until you are grown up enough to develop some mature coping skills. Is it still wrong to check the email and phone when evidence of infidelity falls into your lap.
When a reciept for an unused plane ticket in the other womans name comes to your house(the billing address of the credit card used.
Like Diana said back on May 2, keep all that stuff to keep your head on straight, don’t be sucked in by the constant lies and think about your future. We, along with our son,daughter and their spouses, all share the same phone account. I printed the text messages (phone numbers only)his wife had been conversing with for him.
Lo and behold - three thousand texts in one month to a male “friend.” Hard to believe, but she denied it.
If you use E-ZPass or another toll payment system in your cars, check the online statement. Cheaters are liars to begin with why else would they feel the need to sneak? A person can’t commit adultry and think it is an honest behavior. The one time I broke it I found the texts telling me that he wasn’t where he said he was and how much they liked this and that, I just loved reading about how I was “drama”.
Is there unusual activity showing your spouse driving on the New Jersey Turnpike when they’re supposed to be at work in Westchester? Check the previous destinations in your spouse’s navigation system. And lastly and most importantly when cheated on it is imperative that a game plan be quietly enacted in order to survive(Shore up job skills if needed, close out/pay off joint accts.,update credit report as they are now separate, etc.) By the time you have to look, MOST of the time, the breach of trust has already occurred and the snooper is a victim trying to make sense of things. In my case, I found it very useful to keep my head on straight to remember what was really going on when he would lie to me about everything… Without these messages to turn to for reminders, I could have so easily slipped back into denial. Too distraught to do anything at that moment, those texts are gone forever.
You are assuming that the suspicious spouse is a female. I have been through so much with struggling with HOW do I leave, where to go. If I was that suspicious, I would hire an attorney and have them subpoena the records.
Don’t forget that recent polls show 12% of men have cheated in the past year while 7% of women cheated. Either way I agree, without trust what is there in the relationship? Do you have any advice for anyone that’s going through the avanlace, tornado, hurricane of hurtful betrayals? I mean, when you read your message out loud, you don’t think it makes you sound possesive, paranoid or just plain crazy???? That way I can be sure I have as much as I’m going to get, legally.
People frequently let their discarded emails linger for weeks before they're permanently erased. Is your spouse planning a business trip to Cleveland while browsing hotels in Las Vegas? He has his family thinking Im just making this up!!??? Also…he is so secretive, such a liar that Im thinking he is using apps on sons xbox, which I found him on one day. A con….clearly whatever is going off in kids room, btw…we moved again! You may be able to simply show your spouse the number and get a reaction that makes them admit to their wrong doing.
It doesn’t take the actual content of the phone calls/texts/emails to know there’s an issue.
It’s about the emotional infidelity that is occurring.
It goes without saying that following these tips demonstrates a breach of trust between married partners, something that should not be undertaken lightly. Look at the incoming and outgoing calls on your spouse's cell phone. I haven’t but he on the other hand is constantly deleting history, cache, cookies, a million email accts and I’m the crazy one.
Are there numerous calls to numbers you don’t recognize, especially at odd hours of the day or night? Or, if you have a history of cheating, why hasn’t she dumped you? Snooping your phone while you are in SURGERY, instead of, say, praying for you or waiting for you to get better is just CREEPY. CLEARLY none of you who say just leave have never been in the position where a relationship you’ve been in for 10 years went from good to stale to just f***ed up. And closure and catching him in the act or being flat out wrong is the only way I will get that.