But if you do, don’t say something stupid like you’re already dating someone.
Also, don’t act like a real jerk by either completely avoiding any contact with the person after you make a date…is, not calling them, not answering their phone calls, and not returning them……., or waiting until they call you before you tell them you can’t keep the date.
You're taking matters into your own hands rather than waiting for someone to drift into your life.
And let's face it, as introverts, we're not all that excited about meeting new people out in the real world either. At least they can't corner you and talk your head off.
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