Being single for a while is really not a problem When I was online dating, I was getting worried that I'd been single for —as if that was a lot.I wondered what was wrong with me that made my dating attempts unsuccessful." I projected confidence, and I wasn't willing to settle.Seeing that contrast made me realize how nervous and desperate to please I'd been in the past. While nervous people come off like they have something to be nervous about, confident people come off like they have something to be confident about—and others want to know what that something is.7. " Because I hadn't experienced this thought process in a while, I caught it very early on and was able to say, "Down, girl. I put up with people I shouldn't have Getting more comfortable being single helped me see what lengths I'd gone to in order to avoid singledom.And that's probably why I met the right person shortly thereafter.Instead of wondering whether he'd like me, I was wondering, "Do I like him?
Once I got over that hump, it was nice to not have people constantly evaluating how good my photos looked, and I think it made me, in turn, a bit less preoccupied with my looks.5.Between the thrill of receiving a notification and the game-like aspect of swiping, I was no longer even making the conscious choice to engage in it.I felt like a lab rat mindlessly chasing its next pellet of food.3.During the times I slipped on my hiatus and went on OKCupid, I realized I felt a sense of dread as the homepage loaded because I associated the site with disappointment and rejection.I hadn't even noticed these feelings before because they were overridden by the hope that I'd get that rare good message.