"I also like the fact you're not seeing everybody that's seeing you.I hate that thing about online dating – notifications that say 'these people are looking at you.' I like that you match if they think the same thing, or if they like you." TYPES TO AVOIDYou quickly learn the types to avoid, says Joanna: men whose photos feature a gun, a motorbike, or their ex-partner.Men are invited to fill out a form, and Jan and Hannah sort through the applicants together, contacting whoever Jan is interested in.In the first week, Jan received 50 applicants from all over New Zealand, as well as Australia and the UK.It's no longer a talking point if you meet The One in cyberspace.Online dating technology is evolving, fuelled by sexed-up 20-somethings furiously swiping left.They broke the ice by talking about their memorable Tinder dates.THE STIGMA IS FADINGAitcheson senses that the stigma once attached to meeting people through technology is fading.
Aged in their late 30s, 40s, 50s and older, those in this group have often survived the breakdown of marriages and long term relationships, they usually have children and/or demanding careers, have the complications that come with middle age – children, houses, demanding careers – and little desire to be hooking up in bars at midnight.
READ MORE: * Confessions of a 40-something Tinder user * 16 modern-day dating terms to know * Halal speed dating is 'the anti-Tinder' * Modern-day relationship rules to ignore * The ups and downs of mid-life dating "We have a small group of early stage adopters in New Zealand already, and we'd love to see more." Last month, 60-year-old Auckland teacher Jan Habgood made headlines around the world when her daughters set up a website to help her search for a partner.
Named The Sea (as in, "plenty of fish in…"), the site was designed and written by her 27-year-old daughter Hannah, and looks more modern and vibrant than dating websites.
Joanna would recommend the app, but cautions: "I would say keep your expectations kind of low."What's missing, she believes, is the chemistry that takes place when you meet someone sans screens.
"When you meet somebody in person, it's what makes you want to see that person again.