So in honor of the professionals who pair us up when we're too busy to date, not finding quality matches, or choosing the wrong people again (and again), let's celebrate the holiday with matchmakers' best dating advice.
After all, they've seriously seen it all with their clients.
One of my biggest takeaways while exploring Western Europe for six months was a conversation I had with an Austrian couple. What struck me the most was that there isn't a word in many languages for what North Americans call "dating", and that, in fact, few cultures around the world actually "date". And how to other people get to know one another before committing, having casual sex, or something else?
Within a few minutes of meeting in an Irish pub, the lady of the couple asked, "So, is dating a construct of Hollywood? These were the most pressing questions my friends back home wanted to know, so I went out in discovery of answers.
"On sort ensemble" is something you'd say in Quebec (loosely translated: "we go out together"), but no one said anything of the sort in France. Yes, the guy really planned to have me serenaded, on our first date, along the Seine River.
Looking your best adds to your sense of confidence and self-esteem and that resonates with everyone around you and draws the [potential partners] in like a magnet!
Think of some of the current greatest innovators (Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Mark Zuckerberg) and realize that they had to fail to succeed as well.
Going on bad dates means you are THAT much closer to finding someone. " — Stefanie Safran, matchmaker at Stef and the City"Contrary to common dating advice — talking about exes on a first date is actually a great way to learn about the other person and quickly see if there are any red flags that they are not relationship material. ' What you're looking for is that they speak respectfully about their ex, and don't immediately start venting about what that person did wrong.
You placed this person who did you wrong, or never gave you a chance on a pedestal and they don’t deserve to be there.
You based 'your list' on these people that didn’t work out, so toss your list!