On the other hand, you can’t cross the line of responsibility.You need to avoid taking ownership for your mate’s life.In 2016 Harris appeared to be reconsidering the claims that he had made in the book and apologized to several who publicly communicated how the book had influenced them to stay single had been used by adults to impose stringent rules on them.When you marry someone, you take on the burden of loving your spouse deeply and caring for him or her as for no other.You care about how you affect your spouse; you care about your spouse’s welfare and feelings.
In doing so, he argues, people put up a façade in an attempt to appear to be what the other person wants, and this hampers the "getting to know you" part of dating.
The law of responsibility in marriage is this: We are responsible to each other, but not for each other.
The Bible teaches it this way: “Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ” and “each one should carry his own load” (see Galatians 6:2, 5).
Harris popularized the concept of "courting" as an alternative to regular secular dating, and in doing so has caused discussion regarding the appropriateness of his solutions to regular dating as well as the foundations on which he bases his reasoning.
In general, Harris believes that dating has become too inwardly focused.