Solange, 79, from Wales told us: “I might have been in my 40s when I had an inkling of what it was. Solange added: “My take on older men right now is that they’re looking for a housekeeper or a care-giver, neither of which roles I am prepared to take on.” And so living apart seems to be a growing trend among older people trying to keep things fresh.
David and Carole live opposite each other, having moved down to Hastings after their respective partners died.
Justin has had people come to him using household products as lubricants- shampoo, hand cream and even cooking oil.
Peter, who was 70 at the time, recounts the nerves of starting over again after many years without sex and said: “I can remember sitting on the sofa with Stella and discussing this and saying, well, I really don’t know whether anything works any more. The internet has made finding love so much easier, but this increased access to sex is leading to increased rates of sexually transmitted infections.
Her granddaughter Nicola is acting as both facilitator and gatekeeper and sifting those she thinks are suitable.
As Nicola sends a smiley to a man called John who’s caught her grandma’s eye, Connie tells us that Nicola need not worry about her.
In fact, STIs have doubled in 50-90-year-olds in the past 10 years.
Justin Gaffney is a sexual health nurse consultant and told us: “There is a degree of naivety in the older population in that they just don’t see that they are at risk of sexual infections.” In fact, older people become more anatomically susceptible to STIs as they age, and yet 64 per cent of our respondents who are either in new relationships or are dating, hadn’t sought sexual health advice.