Tasha has been dating Sam for 3 months and it has been the best time in her life.They immediately felt connected, the chemistry was hot, it was easy to see that he was a kind and considerate soul.This is the only way of knowing whether or not you are truly compatible.Stage 2: Unsettled settling As Chris has noticed the landscape has changed. This is not about fault or blame and more about, once again, chemistry – the oxytocin has dropped.This is where commit-a-phobia sets in: One partner wants to move forward, the other may say slow down, give me more time.The pink clouds of the first stage are fading; reality is rearing its head.Researchers have found that oxytocin levels naturally drop in couples somewhere between 9 and 18 months.
Physical distance keeps the potential emotional conflict at bay: You bite your tongue and by the time the next weekend rolls around your irritation has receded.
No, you don’t want to emotionally slap someone up the side of the head on the second date because he talked with his mouth full, but if this is truly one of your pet peeves don’t hold off till 3 years after the wedding to bring it up.
The issue isn't about chewing and food, but about bringing honesty and realness into the relationship from the start so the person gets a true sense of who you really are and what is important to you.
The challenge is being honest with yourself, taking the time to reflect and sort through your true feelings, not compromising or watering down your life.
And if you have been biting your tongue and fearful of rocking the boat, your challenge is to resist the temptation.